Whatisis is right Sol. You can't call it unconditional love with strings attached.
I have been trying to keep up with your stich and get a better picture of where you are now. From what you have written, it is up to your wife to change or you are leaving.
Well, as we all know, we can not change others, only ourselves.
It sounds to me that you are ready for a separation, but are looking for someone to tell you whether it is right or wrong. I know because I was there as well. I finally decided, for myself, my kids and even my H, it made more sense to separate because the path we were going down would have ended worse.
Is it hard, absolutely. Now that my H has found the "woman of his dreams" (met her on line 3 weeks ago, and thinks they are meant for each other)it makes it more difficult. She is 22, he is 35. Umm yeah.
Sol, you really need to search within yourself. If separation is what you need, even though it is really hard to do, you have to do it. If you think you will regret leaving for YOU for one minute, don't make that decision yet.
