I don't get the mentality that he should "get away" with his actions?
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Ok my dear, you need to change your perspective on this just a little.
Ask yourself what is really hurting you, is it the fact that your H told your daughter not to say the woman he had an EA with was with him on the weekend?
Or the fact that she was there....
Why would your H say this to your D? So that you wouldn't be hurt by it? so you wouldn't get angry at him?
Trust me, I do know what you are feeling here. I am right smack in the middle of it too, so is my D. My H is telling her about his OW, how wonderful she is...
Unfortunatley, he fails to tell her that if they are going to be together, my H will have to move and give up seeing her on a regular basis.
That mentality is exactly where your H is right now...why should you get away with your actions and still have him?
See where the path leads to?
Do I agree with the lying? No, but you realize you will also put your D in a bad spot with your H. Are you ready to go down that path?
If you text him what you want to say, can you leave it at that if he does not respond? Will you expect a response? What if he doesn't, will that make you more angry?
Wait 24 hours, let yourself cool down. If you still need to feel like you need to say something, you will be in a better mindset to do it. Right now you are so angry and hurt, it will not be productive.
I was there last night. I was so hurt and upset, that I said some things to my H, and it pretty much started an argument. He was pretty abusive with his words..yet at the same time he was right.
