Sol, you wrote: "I believe in staying M out of pure unconditional love...but it has to be both ways, right?" Sorry, guy, unconditional love is not "I will love you as long as you get help with your depression, go to MC, give 150% to the M and do it now!" Those are conditions, my friend. Unconditional love is "I know you aren't doing what I think is best but I will continue to love you and try to approach this situation in a different manner" IMHO. Now, if you can't and must be like a dog with a bone, then you must BUT don't call it unconditional love! What you are doing right now is basing the entire success or lack of success for your M on your W's actions. That puts you in a place called helplessness. Bad place to be, Sol. I do feel your pain and understand it completely but you need to stop spinning your wheels and do some DBing again! BTW I think you going for counselling is an excellent idea, that's taking action appropriately. What else can you do now?
