Stay strong let go and detach. It is your job to be the bigger person here and show your daughter that as well. He is acting like a prick. Just because he is does not mean that you have to.
Hogs are not that expensive....
Ben 32 STBXW 29 3 kids (D1,S4,SD8) (1 dog 5months) Status: Fighting for the Kids.
"The only thing we know about future developments is that they will develope."
The bad thing about his actions with this is this is so something his ex would do - something that would piss him off, but he's expecting ME to be bitter and act like her.
WTF!!!!!!!!!!
Hey, I think you just observed something very important here. Give it some thought & prayer
that's what I meant. I can't do the dirty work to make the BBQ....
He'd have to do it for me.
I find some irony in this statement too .... friendly divorce. And yet he's encouraging our D to lie to me, telling her that I'm spiteful enough to take her from her dad and he can't look at me or talk to me and is flippant about the money he owes me.
What an excellent friend I have.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
So call him on the crap about asking D to lie, tell him you'll get a CS order if he won't pay on his own and tell HER you would never keep her away from her father.
that's all I have to say to him. That if he wants this to be friendly he can't encourage D to lie for him. He can't tell her that I will keep him from her. Oh yeah and that those tactics are things his ex would pull and I would have expected more from him.
....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
You absolutely should take a vacation alone with D6 and you should definitely be getting CS, too! See to it.
Good job with D6 telling her it is unacceptable for ANYONE to ask her to lie.
D6 was not your sign. And the one rough thing I have to say to you is this: Stop asking for signs. You don't ever believe them anyway. How much faith have you consistently shown? This is a question you have to look into your heart to answer. How much faith have you CONSISTENTLY shown, through EVERYTHING? See, the way it works is this: you stand, by faith, through a whole bunch of negative crap. You stumble, yes, but you keep getting RIGHT back up. THEN there comes a time you will start reaping joy for all the sowing you did in tears (which means, ALL THE STANDING YOU DID WHEN THERE WAS NO REASON). It will be little things at first, little glimpses that things aren't as far gone as you thought, but those little things will grow your faith. Until one day, it just takes A WHOLE LOT to blow you over.
You're now standing completely on the Rock.
As for your hope, when it is placed properly, it can not BE lost. Put it in HIM. Your husband doesn't deserve for it to be in him and that is exactly where it has been.
Get some sleep. We can talk about this more tomorrow.
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....Understand, that I can't, not be what I am I'm not the milk, and Cheerios in your spoon ~ Avril Lavigne ~ ..."Nobody's Fool"...
Second, I know how much you want to talk to him, tell him what he did was wrong, but where is this going to get you? In an argument? As Amy says, you will say your peice, and still feel like s&*t afterwards.
If you feel you must say something, be prepared for a defensive and angry reaction. He WILL NOT apologize, even though he should.
Don't look for sympathy or compassion, you will find none with him. You will find it here, so Vent here!
Third, find some hogs... ;)...no wait that's not right
