I will have to be honest and say that I have not made any headway on the letter and spreadsheet.
I have been doing some posting on a psychology BB and have been given a lot of evidence that what my H has been going through may not really be in his control. This new "perpective" has really made me pause. I have been thinking about this (along this new train of thought) and also researching what was relayed to me on the psychology board over the weekend. I discovered that there is a lot of validity to what was presented to me last week.
It was at (about) the six month mark that my H began frequenting the bar/drinking on an (almost) nightly basis. Along with the drinking comes the spending of a lot of money ..for the alcohol.
What I have discovered is that the meds that he is on, could be (probably IS) causing this. It is almost too much of a coincidence that this began early (at that six month mark) in his new prescription regimen. It's been going downhill (big time) since then!
I was told that the high dose Effexor XR that he is on is probably taking away what might be called "healthy" anxiety. I guess that would be "motivation" .. right? Which probably attributes to his not wanting to (thinking he can't?) work ..?
The other comments I received were in regards to the (only 1 mg) mirapex that he is on for his RLS Apparently, even at this low dose, this drug can make a person compulsive. Well .. we already knew that my H had an "addictive" personality BEFORE he went on the mirapex. What would it do to someone that already struggles with that?
So many of the responses I received just seemed to click in what I saw that has happened to my H .. ALL since he began on the "newer" meds three years ago.
Because of this new found perspective, I am wondering if it will do me any good at all to try to get my H to understand .. considering?
I'm thinking that the first step (change in order I do this, now) should be me getting that letter out to his pdoc. I have the letter almost done and will be sending that out (hopefully) this week.
Now, if we can just hold on to see what his doc says. I sure hope H's pdoc will put a lot of stock in what I have to say and hopefully make some drastic med changes..
