But my w has not shown me any real change nor is she commited 150% to the M. She wants to stay for the kids sake and ultimately for her own sake as I am providing a place for her to live while she continues with her plans involving OM (still in picture). She will not go to therapy, not let go of OM, and continues on the same path before all of this. I have made the next step to go to MC by myself. I have contemplated separating for a long time, while figuring out why she wants to stay miserable in this M and not leave it.
I don't get her. If she is unhappy, and is not willing to work on it (she has said it herself), then why stay if there is no love? I feel it will be better for both of us to go our separate ways and still have a good R with the kids....I am making sure that they will always be in my life.
But I refuse to stay in an uncommitted (on her part) and unloving M. All I am is her security and convenience....that's not true love. I believe in staying M out of love.
Last edited by sol1696; 06/04/0701:44 PM.
~Sol
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Single Dad, and luvin it! ~ Happiness is a state of mind ~
