I found this site and like many here I began to read and read and occasionally post. I followed the DB principles with regards to my WAW and feel good about myself. This year of seperation has been the most difficult thing I have ever gone through, and yet I handled it with diginity and respect for everyone involved. I never called my wife after 8 or 9 PM and certainly never if I had been drinking. I remained pleasent and cheerful in hopes of getting her back. Now though, I have to admit that I love her very much but I am ready to move on with my life. I am not waiting anymore. I have presented the GAL front to my wife, but had not always believed I had achieved that until this past weekend. I don't know what happened to change my mind but it did. I was served with papers last week and sent them to my lawyers office. He called me back and told me that everything was fine, except for one thing. My wife filed to early he said. I was told that she has to wait a year and a day to file and my wife had waited only 10 months at the time. He asked me "What the hell is wrong with her?" He knows the details of my situation. He knows that she told me she wanted a smaller house when we split. He knows that she bought a house bigger than the one we both lived in together. He also knows that she told me she wanted to time alone after the sep was complete, but that admitted to being in a relationship less than a week later. He also knows that those seperation papers were signed on the day of my grandmothers funeral. I came home in a suit and there was my loving wife...flip flops, tank top and shorts on with papers in hand. So there I sat in the local bank getting my seperation papers notarized in disbelief. My lawyer knows all these things as do I, but for some reason it didn't click with me until this weekend. She responded to my lawyers letter to her by calling me. I am not sure what was in the letter he sent her but she wants to talk about it. Probably to tell me that my lawyer is wrong. Either way I don't care. I assume my lawyer told her that will need to refile at the correct time, but that I am also not contesting the D. I will do my best to remain polite and courteous, and I guess tell her that my lawyer is handling the details of this matter. Any thoughts before I call her back?
