OK bambam, you have an extraordinarily valid point with regard to him viewing it while he's supposed to be watching the kids. Now you most likely know he's not doing it with them in the room, so that shouldn't be a concern, right? You're just offended that he's doing it at all. If you've complained about him viewing them in the past, then he knows where you stand. Is this a test to see if you're going to say anything? Maybe, but it could just be that since you have been S for a year, and presumabley "not active", then maybe he's just saying "so what, what's wrong with me looking at this stuff". Indifference, not a test.

If it is a test, and you feel that it would push him further away if you bring it up, then I wouldn't. So long as you are confident that he's not doing it with the kids around, which he almost certainly is not. Don't get wrapped up in the mindset of "heck, you don't see the kids enough as it is, why are you on the computer, you should be spending every second enjoying them". Seems strange, but I'm in that boat right now, and being with the kids feels forced under that scenario. Sometimes, my kids just want to do their own thing, even if are time is limited these days.

Just let it be. I've said this in previous posts, so it's not secret, my wife and I had some major problems with porn, with me looking at it on the computer, so I know what I'm talking about a bit here. Now if I was watching my kids at "their" house, there is no way I'd do that as my wife would KILL me for it. Of course, I'm not allowed in the house without her there anymore, and she wouldn't let me near her computer anyway (I'm a snooper!).

If you really feel like you can't let it go, play it off as a joke to him. "Hey knucklehead, you know I don't like computer porn, so get you jollies on your own time somewhere else, you doofus". Non-confrontational, funny-like. Let him know not to do it anymore, and don't act like you are judging him, making him feel like a perv, or even that you're upset about it. And I wouldn't bring up the kids in the same conversation as porn. He'll get defensive, I guarantee it he will. It will only go downhill from there.

I think 57% of guys admit to looking at porn on the internet and 43% lie and say they don't. I could be off a bit, but not much. For me, when my wife gave me reasons not to ever look at it, I didn't. You know what I mean by that, I'm sure.

Hope this helped, but if not, you got what you paid for! 3:00 a.m., I really have to get some sleep.......................