I don't know what I'll do - and I think in all honesty it's just too late for me
I think a lot of us still in the middle of our sitch fear this the absolute most. Realizing the hurt is too deep and too much to ever be mended. Maybe after some time it's not so much the hurt, but rather the realization that we are in a good place in our lives and the WAS MLCer is no longer the type of person that compliments who we are.
This leads me to another question I think about a lot and I'm sure I may not be liked very much for saying this, but isn't it possible that these WAS MLCer's are simply not the right people for us?? I read a lot about the MLCer being "sick" which they could very well be, but my feeling is that everyone has different crises life events all throughout our lives, but not everyone chooses to cheat on their spouses or divorce their spouses to get them through the crisis.
Don't get me wrong, I still want my H back despite what he has done. I want H to be sorry for all that he has done, I want H to want to come back to me and our D10, but I know that is not reality. I am clearly feeling anger and confusion about everything though. Truly, MLC or not, what kind of person abandons the woman they committed to and the daughter they brought into this world? That is one thing I don't know if I will ever understand...I may be able to forgive, but I don't know if I will ever understand.
Thanks for posting and I hope to read more!!! Maybe it will help sort out some of the confusion. All the best, UB
