Secondly, get back to the basics and start focusing on you. Maybe write down all you have to be thankful for (believe me there is still a LOT, starting with your health and the health and love of your 2 DDs!).
Finally, remember this: Your old M is dead. Look at the D papers as the official recognition of this fact. If there is to be a new, better R between you and your W or anyone else for that matter, you will have to first learn who you really are and to love that person unconditionally. If somehow post-D you and your W find yourselves back together, you can get a new M certificate to commemorate your new, better M!
Hang in there my friend, SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
