How long does Replay last?

[still hoping]

People have told me that one day I'll just wake up and realize that I don't want my H back anymore. I think that day has come - except that I didn't actually wake up. Spent a sleepless night - first one in many many months - recounting the events of the past 18 months and still can't believe how horrific they really are. The lies he told and continues to tell to this day, even when there is no R between us, the things he has done to make this affair happen (trips to other countries to see her, bringing her here, borrowing hundreds of thousands of dollars to open a restaurant to employ her so she could stay here, employing her friends from her country - paying them double what he could pay for staff who didn't require work permits, borrowing even more money from friends to keep the failing restaurant open, living with her - ALL facts which I have been told and not a single fact has come from him). MLC or not, this monster of a man he is now is not who I want to be married to nor the person I want to raise my sons.

I'm finally waking up. Now I need to figure out how and when to tell him about my decision to move several countries away (but at least in the same time zone...). Do I write a letter, email, call, set a time to meet him? Would much rather do it face to face but can't bear to see those lifeless eyes staring back at me. And what do I say? Still nothing about the hurt and damage he's caused? Or do I let it all out? And when do I tell him if I don't plan on going until the end of the year?

Any advice would be greatly appreciated...