I concur with DNQ, just keep a positve PMA Husband and don't worry about the W.
DNQ,
I have started reading "How to be attractive to Women", do u reckon I should have started with "Superior Man"?
I left her to spew about the pepperoni because It was not really directed at anyone. I understand what you are saying about the SM and DB approaches to each, but I feel at the time it was the right thing to do. She was spewing as she was organising the groceries inside the fridge (re-arranging things). Her best friend was sitting in the kitchen as well, and we both had a chuckle as I left.
But I understand where you are coming from.
I have always been a SM in our relationship, and my W has brought this up as being too controlling. With DBing, you are sort of damned if you do and damned if you don't.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."