And here I thought I was being all admirable for my restraint. Sheeesh.
All right, you asked for it.
I think your h needs a big kick in the a$$. You've just forgiven him a major, major indiscretion ... one that would have had many a woman kicking him out of the door, presto. And then he lied, and avoided, and lied again. To now stall on something so simple as the assignment your therapist gave you is .... I don't even want to get started. He should be tripping over his feet looking for ways to make it up to you. This ain't it.
As for the "sex is for procreation", that's complete and utter BS. What he means is "I like young women with firm bodies". So does the rest of the male population on this planet. Which is fine if you're a serial monogamist, who trades the old model in for a newer one as soon as it shows signs of wear. At some point, if you want all the advantages of a long-term relationship, the companionship, the friendship, the history, you have to GROW UP. Someone who wants it both ways is nothing but a cake-eater.
If this makes you feel defensive, don't be. I understand that you feel this is not the time to leave, or make a scene, or even push very hard. I respect that. I'm just angry on your behalf, because you seem like such a great woman. I wish I could take your h and shake some sense into him, so he realizes just what he has. I hope your therapist will kick him for me, and from what you tell me of him, he just might.
