Thank you. My H has said things on several occasions that lead me to believe that he really does think he's doing me a favour. And, in fact, perhaps he is, and I am just too stubborn to see it! I know I haven't made him out to be a great guy. And right now, he isn't. He hasn't been for a while actually. Could he be? I think so, but it would take a lot of work. Work that he's not willing to do.
That said, it probably doesn't take a lot of work to be w/ this woman right now. They are still new in the R, and she won't have the same expectations of him as a wife and the mother of his children. I'm sure it is easier for him to be with her. He doesn't have to make a big effort; in fact, he can be lazy and still be appreciated - not the case with me. And I'm not apologizing for that!
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What's important to me though, is not really what he thinks. I want YOU to finally see that YOU are way better than he deserves too.
You always turn my eyes back to myself - thanks for that! That's where my focus should be.
Snodderly~
Thank you for a great post. You put it so clearly and succinctly. I don't think my H feels that he could ever come back to me. He has just messed up so badly. And it seems like his behaviour is escalating, almost like he wants to be sure that there is no way in hell I would ever take him back.
And thanks for telling me I deserve better. I really need to get to the place where I can really believe that.
Of course, all you guys ever hear is my side of the story. I actually think that, on the surface, he doesn't think he's doing anything wrong. He's so supremely self-centered.
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