I take heart, Lin, from messages like yours. My sister reminded me too that H is in the midst of a lot of heavy therapy right now (dealing with ACOA guilt and shame) and probably feeling bombarded by feelings of all sort. He never was good with feelings -- again, that ACOA stuff -- and if that's true, then his only response (as my sister pointed out) is defensiveness and rejection.
Still, it's so hard. I'm going to try to go dark as much as possible in the coming months. With the boys out of school, H won't be around as much -- at least not every morning when I'm here -- and so maybe I will be able to just not contact him more successfully.
Cross your fingers and send up prayers... Thanks -- Anne
