When she got home with FBF and DD, she started spewing about all the pepperoni packets in the fridge (she loves her pepperoni and cheese toasted turkish rolls). Every time I do any shopping, I pick up a packet (for her).
She embarrassed herself in front of her FBF by having a hissy fit (which I ignored and walked into my office).
Andy, glad things went so well for you at the match. Sounds like everyone had quite a bit of very much needed fun.
BUT...... I think you may have missed an opportunity to put in place some DB and Superior Man tactics. You seem to be understanding the DB stuff, but as you can see from the excerpts of David Deida's "The Way of the Superior Man" I sent you, there are two ways to approach her spew. Take a look at my thread link below and read what one of the forum masters wrote to me in response to some questions I had for him. Essentially, I was stating that the principles of DB and Superior Man are opposing forces, and that I was conufused. He explained brilliantly that no, they are not opposed, but complementary. It just depends on the situation in which you find yourselfe. A "Superior Man" would have actually embraced you wive's spew because it was just about day to day stuff. I mean, come on! Spewing about pepperoni? I've done that too, but only after pepperoni pizza and 22 beers, and that's a different kind of spew!
"Superior Man" says to "stay with her intensity - to a point", as follows:
a mediocre man wants to calm her down and discuss it, or leave and come back later when she is "sane." A superior man penetrates her mood with imperturbable love and unwavering consciousness. If she still refuses to live more fully in love, after a time, he lets her go.
Frank_d tells me in his post in my thread that the "point" to focus on is what is the spew about? If it is an abusive spew directed at YOU, then use DB, tell her it's unacceptable, and walk away if it does not cease. If it is about day-to-day bulls***, you know, like freakin' pepperoni packets, then use the Superior Man practices. Tell her she's cute when she's like this, be as silly as her, that sort of stuff. Look in the pdf I sent you, it's chapter 21.
Also see the link below for what Frank actually said, you may find it insightful.
Me: 39 WAW: 40 S10, D7, S6 Bomb #1 - 12-24-06: Move out (ILYBNILWY - admitted '05 PA) Move back: 3-2-07 (W: I still want to be married to you) Bomb # 2 - 4-11-07: (W: Can't do this - never loved you) Move out again: 4-29-07 Dark: 6-8-07
