My DB coach Joanne gave me this advice amost a year ago.
With MLC, less is more.
I interpret it like this. Fewer words, the more of the convo they remember. A compliment, remembered. An appriciation, tatooed on the heart. No guilt, more thoughts about what they gave up for their freedom.
Not trying to change or give suggestions: honoring them as a person.
Agreeing with them, even if you KNOW that the sky is blue and they think it is green. "you could be right".
A quick hello and disappear, they will want more of you, and wonder what is up.
Less is More.
I am going to remember that for tomorrow. It will help me let go and let God.
Bomb 1/06 D dismissed 11/07, attempt reconciliation. Premature. Divorce final October 31, 2008. OW looks like bad history. Over. Still hopeful. Baby steps. In R with my X.