I dont post here very often but I certainly agree with everything you have said. My H is attempting to get approval from everyone, his family, and now our children for the new love of his life. He tells me that he is sorry for hurting my but has no remose. Sorry but how can you be genuine if you have no remorse for tearing someone's beating heart from their chest and callously leaving it as road kill.
I think we as LBS get it all too quicklt, quicker than thee WAS but that for some reason instead of letting go and trusting in God for ourselves we invest too much of our souls in their drama. You can stand for your marriage and I am surely doing that but I am also standing for me.