I think I get was OT is saying. The decision to D shouldn't be made from feelings of anger or revenge, no matter how justified those feelings may be. I'm not a psychology expert, but I do know that decisions made in anger will usually haunt the person afterwards. Even people who are as sure as they can be that D is the right thing still struggle with doubts afterwards from time to time. You have hiked the Andes my man, don't let this last mountain, no matter how jagged or cold or high it is, defeat you. Surely the MAN who was able to sustain years of neglect from his W can hold out a little longer and not let some invader chase him out. Sorry for the lame analogies, I'm full of them.
One thing to consider, and this may sound weird, is that once you go down the road of thinking about D, you also have to think about life after D. Who do you want to be post-D? A man saddled with doubts about his previous M, or a man with a clear conscience. You may already be a man with a clear conscience, only you can decide that.
As for your previous reply, I will say you have made REPEATED references to the "fetching MrsChoc." Again, just think, there may be a time when she will wake up and come at you with every "trick" (not necessarily malicious or contrived) in the book. I don't know about you, but I've only had that happen to me once in my life, and we all know what happened there. I just hope you are mentally prepared to see that for what it is, either an honest attempt to get back in your good graces, or a dishonest attempt to mollify you to gain time. I'm not wise enough to tell the difference, perhaps others here are.
Best wishes as always, Chrome
"Recollect me darlin, raise me to your lips, two undernourished egos, four rotating hips"
