Annie - truer words have never been written. Snodderly followed-up excellently.
Part of me also thinks (at least in my case), that the "meanness" comes from wanting to be hated, and to make it easier. But also contradicted with the anger that comes from you being so independent (b/c that makes them feel small and unneeded).
It's a viscious circle...one that we can't keep looping around.
