he mentioned the other day about having sex for him was primarily about procreating and that there was a strong urge to do that (thus the younger women I guess that he had As with) and if WE can't do that, he says the urge is not there.
Sounds like it is all about him. What about you?

HW, I don't even play a shrink on TV but that sounds so not realistic, not practical to me, I can't believe he even said it.

It is only believable if:
1.He wants to get each woman pregnant.
2.If he does, how does he support each child?
3.He has to think about will all the women involved, would they put up with all of the other women and kids?
4.He can't be there for the kids formative years, school milestones, marriages, and so on.
5.He was adopted. Does he want kids to experience what he went through?
6.Is he getting back at someone else because he felt X, Y, or Z because he wasn't raised by his parents.

That having sex with fertile women reminds me of one of the guy's I met in the Army and a class of mostly inner city men that are proud of all the girls they knock up. The kids are supposed to be "trophies." The guys brag how many trophies he has.

Mother's Day (United States) http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Mother%27s_Day_%28United_States%29 was May 13 in 2007 for most USA folks.

For the guys that have lots of trophies, Mother's Day is each month their trophy's mother gets her welfare check. Bootie call time to spend some of the welfare money. What kind of woman goes along with that kind of male behavior?

I don't have any first hand knowledge, I learned this information in conjunction with my college studies and because I worked in a delinquent boys group home.

My opinion, your H is trying to sell something I wouldn't be buying if I were you. Sure, he might believe it. Like I said I don't even play a therapist on TV, so take into consideration I don't know everything, and I have "opinions" based on what I think is right or wrong.

I read some of your old posts and see a regular pattern of your H saying the right words but not carrying through, doing something else, falling back into what ever was a problem for you.

I am somewhat addicted to the Internet, or I will say I rely on the Internet for lots and lots of things. If I had to give up using the Internet it would be difficult.

I was thinking your H is addicted to some old behaviors he tells you he is going to give up. I think he is going to have a difficult time giving up what ever it is that keeps him going back to seek the company or just to talk to younger women. Her having kids and him saying he is helping the kids is saying look at the good part of a bad/poor behavior pattern.

Maybe I said too much, so if so, take what I post as trying to help and missing the mark rather than me saying here is your problem. Maybe Choc's situation has me in a "get real" "get tough" "trust but verify" mode.

I think it is so good to have the ST you two have. The "don't ruffle any feathers" type of C feels good but changes/improvements take so long.

I have to do some painting, yard work, and water the tomatoes. Just popping in (slight addiction you know ) to see how life is treating my cyber friends.

Lou