Still working on happiness

[ACJ]

but strangely disappointing - this is who he's choosing over me? I don't get it.

Nicola I can totally connect with this. The day I found out about orig OW that H was with when he left he told me that all he ever wanted was a beautiful woman on his arm. He also said that I must be the only woman in our city that did not find him attractive! I never met that OW but the one he is now living with and engaged to is a lot bigger than I ever was even before the MLC diet, has worse acne than me, etc etc. So my question is also why?

When I asked H this ages ago he said it was b/c she was just like him. I recently read a very good post about the Hs projecting themselves on OW and only seeing themselves in OW and that really hit me square on. I'm not doing a very good job at explaining this but I think our Hs are with these women b/c they know they are currently the pits and so that is what they are looking for in a new partner!