Hi JR-Why doesn't your wife doesn't trust you? My husband is telling me he doesn't trust me because he doesn't believe I can change even though I have admitted to my faults and want(ed) to give it 1000% effort to try to make him happy. I feel that if he were rational, he would have come home by now wanting to give me/us the benefit of the doubt.
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Why CAN'T you just forgive and forget and start trusting him again? Because he hasn't made ANY changes??? Because he's still hurting you? Something else? Maybe you just don't WANT to trust him again?
Even though my last post probably did make it sound like it, I would give my H a second chance in a heartbeat. I don't give up easily. If he walked in the door today and said he wanted to work everything out, I would be thrilled yet apprehensive at the same time. I can forgive and try to forget but it will take time and effort on both our parts for us to get past this. Our emotional wounds are going to take time to heal. Optimally, the first step to trusting him again would be for him to try to trust me but chances are that isn't going to happen anytime soon. So, if that can't be the first step, all I can do to start to trust him is to have faith and hold onto any positives I get from him. I wish my H could do the same for me.
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Are people you trust telling you NOT to trust him anymore? What does your heart tell you?
My friends and family are telling me all kinds of things, mostly that I should move on. They hate to see me in pain and they want me to take the fastest route to end my suffering. What are your friends and family telling you? As far as my heart goes, it is having a major struggle with my head. My heart wants to stick this out until the absolute end. My head sometimes (more often lately) agrees with my family and friends.
I am not sure if my thoughts are helpful at all because it sounds like you are the LBS like me. I am happy to try to give you any insights I may have anytime. Good luck and stay strong.
