UD, Buying a new home seems out-of-step with your situation. You're living in a home that you haven't made a financial commitment to, so you have some freedom. Why lessen your freedom with the purchase of a home? Why not move into something that has a shorter commitment, such as an apartment?
You don't know what direction you're situation is going. Much can change over the next months. You need the flexibility to make changes. I vote NO for buying a house.
I can understand being discouraged when your H is not showing any signs of wanting to work on the M. Three months into a separation is still early. You two are still in a "settling the muddy waters," phase. I'm glad to see you refraining from pursuing your H, and thinking about what you can do to take care of you.
We have to learn to accept that we can't know the answers to some of our questions, until the story evolves. We also have to learn to work with anger and other distressing emotions, and not be invested in perpetuating our grievances towards our WAS. They are not doing this to harm us, but are struggling with their own issues.
We have to learn to cultivate joy, compassion, and kindness in our interactions with them and others in our lives. We have to learn to be grateful for the kindness and support they've given us over the years, and positives they currently bring to our lives. We have to learn to not focus exclusively on how they're disappointing us.
The LBS has much to practice!
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
