Cadesmom, I can understand you being angry. My H is another state right now (the kids and I are moving in July) and I'm lucky if he calls me for a minute a day (just to get what info he needs). You're right that it's not fair that we have to pick up the pieces after they crash. Unfortunatly life isn't quite fair or they wouldn't have done it in the first place. My H is doing nothing to help out our M. He's "in love" with the OW and he plans on leaving in a year. Right now I'm in limbo being so far away. I'm hoping that once we're all together again maybe he'll be able to see that life could be good with his family again. I know the deployment issue is tough. It's easy to have second thoughts and to second guess everything when they are not around. For now do what makes you happy. When he gets home you'll be stronger and happier and will know what it is you want/need to do. Good luck to you.
