Some question the existence of mlc. I have moments too.
If you believe in it, and read about it, they say the MLCer doesn't come back till you let go. Trying to make yourself let go in hopes they return does not work. Like bad karma. They really don't seem to return until you truly let go, no matter the length of time.
So why aren't more accepted back in the end? Duh! The time span, the toll it takes on the sane one, the simple odds of it all. Ok, he pushed it too far over the edge for most folks. The D. A new M. He closed a lot of doors.
So now the questions.
Do you believe?
And you don't want to bust up even the worst M. But what if the get C and one of them concludes they weren't meant to be ... and your phone keeps ringing? What if he weren't M, and I don't think he will be for long now no matter what you do. He certainly won't be Happily M.
Could you see yourself ever C with him and work through what has happened? Maybe I feel like some of these answers are impossible to separate from your answer to the first question.
Anyway, what I really hope you will do is update this thread over coming weeks or months and continue the saga of what happens when they wake up too late. For those that are not so far down the road as you, and are still new at this ... you may provide very useful possibilities.
Perhaps some of their MLCers won't file, and this will give them reasonable hope to continue their stand. Having been there yourself, you know the value of the support found here. You came through it a survivor in your own way and are now glad to have it behind you. You remember those days that so many here are still in the midst of.
Just saying you may find some way to continue making this a positive for those "standing" in the wings.
