Uhhh... I'm glad you kept up the PMA at the game. If possible move towards separation and keep the D slow as possible. Even if you do actually go through with it, I think it's healthier to go through this slowly.
Gosh, I wish you were here in California so we could go out together and GAL tonight. Make sure you get a good support group to help you at this time.
I didn't read all the posts on this particular thread (I looked at the other one). Why do you have to move out of the house and into a condo? Shouldn't it be the other way around? Is he buying you out?
By the way, one more thing I want to point out to you... my husband actually filed for divorce twice. First in Feb 05 (I convinced him to try "one more time.") Then, in 06 he had the A and "restarted" the divorce in Mar 06.
All I can say to you is read the stages of MLC. I was kind of skeptical of my husband being in MLC, but looking back at it now my husband really did go through those stages and he had to hit rock bottom to figure out where he wanted to be.
You take care of yourself, keep up the PMA in front of H... try to have some fun too, go out flirt and feel good about yourself.... but try not to get emotionally inovlved with anyone now. You will be very vulnerable. You need to heal. DBing will help with two things. It will give you the best chance for reconciliation and will also help you grow and heal regardless of what happens. You will come out stronger either way.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
