Congrats on the baby!!! What a miracle babies are.
If I were you, and I'm not even close to being able to truly empathize, so take this for what it's worth but, I'd focus on the kids. Let your husband see you happy with them and not needing him and let him come around on his own. You know you can't control him or change him, so don't even think about it and see how your focus on your kids improves and makes you feel better too. See how that goes and report back
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
