I'll try and take a look right now since I have a small amount of time. I don't have too many long threads just lots of short ones. One of the problems I struggled with was distancing. I had a difficult time figuring how and when to "go dark" and distance physically and when I should reach out. I knew I wanted my husband to learn what it was like without me, but I also needed to create current "good memories" (since he had "erased" them with negative ones) and his detaching and creating a life without me was frightening to me. I felt a great deal of conflict about this.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
