I married this man because I thought he would NEVER do this to me. How can I have faith and trust in him after all of this.
This is an interesting question and one I'm sure my wife is asking (she kicked me out, I didn't leave, by the way). I know she doesn't trust me, and she doesn't know how she can. So maybe you can go over this with me, since you can provide the W's perspective.
Why CAN'T you just forgive and forget and start trusting him again? Because he hasn't made ANY changes??? Because he's still hurting you? Something else? Maybe you just don't WANT to trust him again?
I'm throwing these things out because I'm making all these changes - I'm doing it for my own well-being, but let's be honest - I want my wife back and these changes will help that (if there's any help to be had). So, if you saw your husband making significant changes, and you let him come back, wouldn't that be the first step in trusting him again? Wouldn't you take that chance JUST to be sure?
Are people you trust telling you NOT to trust him anymore? What does your heart tell you?
I don't know, if it was me, I would give him one more chance - JUST TO BE SURE! Doesn't that seem to be the sensible thing to do?
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
