I have begun a new chapter in my saga with exW. I do honestly believe what we had is over. That is fine. However, at this very point, I want to start over with her.
I was talking to a guy who was supposed to paint my house. He said, "I gave the proposal to your wife." I had to break it to him she no longer my wife or around. He and I ended up chatting for three hours! Essentially, his wife left him and divorced him. She did everything she could to push him away. When I told him all exW had said and done, he seemed pretty convinced she was pushing me away NOT because she did not love me but because she was afraid to love me and had some of her own demons to face.
I sent her the following in an e-mail:
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I wanted to let you know if you need anything, whatever it is, I will be there for you. If you ever want to talk about anything, I will be here to listen. You still mean so very much to me.
This is a complete 180 for me because I said I did not want to have anything to do with her.
Does anyone have any thoughts on this?
Thanks,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
It is my opinion that such an email would be interpreted as a pursuit email. Remember, she pushed YOU away, if she is interested, she will come after YOU.
It is my opinion that such an email would be interpreted as a pursuit email. Remember, she pushed YOU away, if she is interested, she will come after YOU.
braveheart,
I appreciate your thoughts. I thought long and hard about what to write. The purpose of this was to open the door so she feels she can contact me. Otherwise, based on our previous interactions, she would assume there is no desire on my part for any interaction.
I carefully worded it so the focus was on her not on me.
Take Care,
RMG
"The bad things in life open your eyes to the good things you weren't paying attention to before." from "Good Will Hunting"
