I think it is wonderful that your son is noticing...and how he reacts...this should just make you melt...and I am sure it does...it is our kids that keep us going so many times..
And yes...your wife needs time...true you don't need her...you want her...for how long???...there is no time period...I didn't think I could last a few months...I sincerely thought I could "stop loving" my H in a few months...6-12...well that didn't happen much to my agony at times...so many times I wished I had had the "privilege" of unloving him first because the pain was so bad and he acted like he was just fine with it all...how do they do that???...with H it was ALL BOTTLED UP INSIDE!!!...I will bet your wife has her feelings for you bottled...it becomes a defense mechanism...the major difference for you and me is we are on separate sides...he was the drunk who left me...where as your wife was the sober one left...would I have been her in time???...that thought is scary to me as well...
The other wonderful thing about out kids is they let us know when we made the right decision...when I decided to let H come home...I could see how happy it made my son...and this made me want to work all the more...and in time it also effected H to this point where he finally said he would always work on the marriage with me and he wouldn't leave us again....no matter what!...at times I felt that was more of a curse then a blessing but things are working out...he is becoming more the man that I admire then the one that I cried for...
So hang in there...hang on...hold on...grab on...your doing great...in time others will notice too...you won't forever remain the bad guy...trust me...
