Wanted to post to you to let you know that I'm thinking about you and that I understand where you are right now. I've been through some of the things you described, like the not going out, and the feeling that H thinks marriage just "happens, its either there or it isn't". Which we both know is a crock. I think its an excuse by them.

I wish I had some good advice for you. But I'm going thru some of the same things (only I'm not getting any of the love, committment, affection ). Have you tried to set up dates for the two of you to do things together? Not sure if you have children, but I know couples need time to themselves, it is so important! Not just on his business trips, but things you both enjoy doing.

I'm also struggling with trust at the moment and my H doesn't know it either. I wish I had an answer for us both!

But I do commend you on giving him the space he needs to find himself again. Keep it up. And that space is for you too. Don't forget that. You are doing a great job. He seems to be coming around, it just takes time. Something I need to remind myself

JustLearning

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