Thanks for the notes of encouragement; they mean a lot to me, and you all keep me going, you really do. I have great, great moments and some horribly sad ones, but the overall trend is UPWARD in terms of my personal growth as a man, as a father, and as a husband.
I have detected no contact from my W to OM since I've been back from Chicago (no text messages, no phone calls, and no running errands at odd times), but I am not so naive as to think she has cut off all contact with him. She still trains with him, for one, and she has refused three times to end the friendship, and so I have proceeded accordingly with confrontation and exposure, albeit slower than NOP probably would have liked/recommended.
Today she is at mandatory company training, and OM may be there. I cannot control that, but can only control my reactions to her continued denials and reluctance to emotionally recommit to the marriage and to our family, and those reactions have been loving but FIRM.
One of the saddest things about this past week was that the keylogger on the home computer turned up some things that I had to confront D18 about, things that a girl's mother should have to discuss with her. I felt like a single dad already. But I do think that my message got thru to her, and more importantly the godly example I've been leading lately is being noticed by her and her 20 year old sister.
But I do think that my message got thru to her, and more importantly the godly example I've been leading lately is being noticed by her and her 20 year old sister.