We went to the pyschiatrist yesterday. He said to H that he felt he had, "ADD, a littel bi-polar, some impulse control problems and problems with addiction". He said that the good news is that it's all manageable with medication.
H has agreed to take this test that will recommend an appropriate medication. But we couldn't schedule it until June 22nd.
H is in a dark place again. We talked about it a bit yesterday. I asked him what's wrong, and he said, "all this stuff wtih us". I explained to him thta as long as he allows OW to be in his life in any capacity, that he will feel this constant struggle. I told him that he can either set himself up for failure or he can set himself up for success. And by letting OW back in his life, in any capacity, he is allowing the bleeing to continue.
He did say in the session that he understands that if he does not cut complete contact with OW, his M will end. So, at least he gets it.
So, I said to him that I know he's struggling and that I am giong to back off and give him his space. I said that I am here for him if he wants to talk to me, but that I will not ask him again waht is wrong.
We have our next step. We will evaluate him for the right medication. He thinks the test will show up nothing. The psych disagreed. But at least we have our next step.
Perhaps I moved over to piecing prematurely.
Married 9 years Kids 5 and 6 Bomb 2006 H back and forth for a year M now back on track
