Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[WAW in the OC]

Andyv and Husband,
Thanks for your support and ideas. I just get so upset when I know she is doing things w/ OM that only I used to do w/ her. It's what I get for snooping. Now I know it only hurts to snoop.

Wife just left the house in a tizzy. Angry that I'm spending time w/ my kids watching a movie and it's only 9:45pm here. She stormed out of the house, probably to meet OM.

Tonight I joined W and kids for dinner. W was upset that I did that but I didn't care. I'm loosing time w/ kids I'll never get back. She just had her poopoo face on the whole time. I'd better get used to it.

It's only been a month since dday and it seems like a year. I really admire you guys that stick in there for a long time. My wife was a devout catholic and raised in a very strong family(both parents still married 40+ yrs). they are all very shocked but not saying anything to her.

Just hoping for an end to the madness.