Hey Violet
I have to admit when I first read your post I was thinking 3 strike you are out dude. But then I remembered my own sitch. Before this happed I would always say If the wife cheats she hits the streets.
Well here I am fighting for my family. Waiting for those damn aliens (not illegal ones , ones form outer space) to give me her body back. If any good comes out of our sitches it's that I will never judge another person until I walk in there shoes. Now of course this excludes OM & OW ESPECIALY MARRIED ONES. You don't like your marriage get out but don't cheat.
Sorry there I go again.
Anyway Cad would probably have the best advice but if ya need a pep talk drop me a post

HUSBAND

And if I claim to be a wise man, well
It surely means that I don't know