Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[DadNotQuitting]

I told her that if things were to change in the future (her feelings), I would forgive and forget what has happened (she said "Yeah sure" negatively). I hope this was the right thing to do, as I really did want her to know the option is there to come back.

It's good that you said this, but you better mean it. Start the work you need to do now in anticipation that you have to live, and love, by these words.

If she takes one thing away from your conversation, let's hope it is this one. The WAW, from what I'm beginning to learn, needs to know that they have an emotionally safe place to return to. It was posted on my thread that 80% of WAS end up questioning their decision to leave (at some point), but many cannot pursue a return because the door has been closed, or they feel that it would be nothing but retribution for a long time to come.

But for now, STOP talking to her about these things. You will get nowhere because she's not in the right frame of mind to process logical thoughts. All of these things you are saying will just delay or prevent her from being able to screw her head on tight and asess her situation for what it really is, a big mistake. Be the man she needs you to be and leave her alone on this.