"When do they finally look AT THEMSELVES and see what they have done to their H/W and their family!!!????""
Cadesmom34,
Probably when it is too late, and we move on is when they realise.
I am sorry to hear that your H has treated you the way he has. My W along with your H probably still do respect us, but in thier heads they are in La La land, and think what they are doing is okay, and fill their heads with excuses to re-inforce what they are doing.
Everything does heal with time. You will feel better and there will always be a positive outcome for you, whether it is together with your H or with someone else.
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."