Your H has some nerve, honestly, to be using the joint account to pay for his vacation. I think he's upset that you are going to Disney with the kids and knew how to push your buttons.
Well, I think you need some new clothes and so do the kids for your trip....use the joint account. What is good for the goose is good for the gander. Otherwise, you need to set a boundary as to what the account is to be used for until the final agreement has been signed.
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Looking back, would we do things different? You bet! But.... looking back is just that, looking. It is how we received the future and it's challanges we are now better prepared for that will define our place.
We acted and reacted in ways that we did because we did not have the knowledge we have today. We would also not have the knowledge we have today if we didn't go through this experience. Don't look back and think about what you could have done different because you couldn't without having the knowledge you do today.
We really come to know our real strength and what we are made of when we are put through a difficult test such as a separation/divorce.
I am so proud of you Nicola on how well you have handled this process. Two months ago, even 6 weeks ago, I was really worried about you but you have demonstrated to all of us that your courage, your self-respect and your self-worth can and has taken you to a place of power and being in control of YOU once again.
Your H will be in for a rude awakening when he realizes that you will not be pining over him any longer. You deserve to do something very special for yourself; think about it and just go do it. Oh, and BTW, use the joint account.
Hugs, ISLH
Me: 49 - S22 & S26 H: 41 - No kids M: 10/00 Bomb New Year's Day 2006 H living w OW 01/07; have baby 12/07 D final 07/07 Thread #9 - Hope Lives On
