Thanks for the advice CL & OC. I wish I had better news.

I went to my H's office on Thursday to drop off checks and I was trying to miss him but that didn't happen. I made it as brief as I could besides he was talking with someone when I came in. He sent me a text after that thanking me for dropping off the checks and apologized for not being able to "chat". Anyway, I never did talk to him about the MC appointment at all and well, he didn't show up today. I know he knew about the appointment because he input it into his Blackberry when we made the appointment 2 weeks ago. He didn't call or even text me to give me an excuse as to why he couldn't make it. So, like you said, "If it's important to him, he'll be there." I obviously know now that it isn't important to him. My C thinks he is just avoiding dealing with things and that I should give him until the end of the month. After that, if he isn't making any real attempt to R, then I should move forward with the D. He also thinks that my H shouldn't be dumping all the blame when it comes to our R talks that don't go so well. The C was surprised by my H's recent actions because he thought my H was very sincere at our last session about taking baby steps to R.

I guess my only option at this point is to go very dim (not quite dark) and prepare myself for a D. This is all so crazy. I don't understand how people can play with someone's emotions like this...especially someone that you have known and trusted for such a long time.

On top of all of this, I now have a new dilemma. I met a guy that seems pretty nice a few weeks ago through a friend. He has innocently asked me to lunch...he made it sound like it was for business purposes but I have my doubts about that. I am getting mixed opinions from my friends and family on whether or not I should go. I need all the friends I can get right now. Please let me know your thoughts.