Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[WAW in the OC]

Andyv,
Be strong for your DD. She needs you now more than ever to be the man you are. We are all rooting for your reconciliation. Unfortunately, our wives have a large say in the outcome. All we can do is GAL and PMA to keep from going crazy. I think I know exactly how you feel andyv.

My wife is leaving for a business trip Monday and I did the wrong thing by snooping and finding out that OM is planning on meeting her there to have a rompfest. It just about killed me.

I asked her this morning to call the kids daily or at least take their calls to say good night and she wigged out saying I'm painting her as the bad guy and I'm being condescending. I know to believe none of what she says since she's in MLC mode, but it still hurts when she talks to me in a disrespectful manner in front of my kids. The more I think about what she's doing now, the more attractive D looks. It's only been 2 weeks of DBing and 1 month after the bomb. I'm too impatient.