so after 2 months back together again, my H has told me that he feels divorce is inevitable. i don't know what to do. he is at our home that just went under contract to make repairs. i was over there last night when he dropped the bomb, and left to come back to our place. i did fall apart. i did get upset and say some things i wish i hadn't (just stuff i've been through). i am so tired. i have been DB'ing my ass off for 6 months now.
he has been acting more and more distant over the past couple of weeks, but up until then, was optimistic about our future. when i sensed him pulling back, i started to DB hard again. no more ILY. stayed light and out of his way. he has been very secretive about his e-mail and myspaceing - every time i walk in the room, he shuts down the page. i am suspicious that OW is in the picture again.
i don't know what to do. if he does not want to try, then there is nothing i can say or do to change his mind. i truly thought we were on the long road to recovery. i haven't heard from him. feeling very confused and tricked.
WTF?!? i have no idea what to do other than go dark. if he comes back to the apartment tonight my plan is to get dressed up, look hot, and go out. i don't care if it's by myself.
You can not POSSIBLY be surprised at this most recent turn of events....
Really? Don't you think she might have been blissfully happy, even if just for a minute? She might have "known" deep down this was possible, but I know I wouldn't want to think about it or believe it could happen, if I was in her shoes.
Kiki, have you been to counseling or anything? Have you been active with your H, doing things together, getting to know each other again? I'm sorry you're in this situation, I really hope it all turns out how you want it to.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
we have been doing lots of things together again. we have spent time together and gotten on very well, even talking about the future, which he brought up.
H just called - i didn't answer - to check and make sure i was somewhere safe and that i was ok. also to make sure he was not supposed to pick up S3. asked that i please call him back or send a text or something.
You gotta do what you gotta do. Have you guys been in counseling at all? Seems like there are some unresolved issues. I know if it was me, I'd be all in if I'd agreed to come back. If he's not all in, there's still something wrong in his head. Maybe a 3rd party can help get it out and in the open.
We can talk ourselves into defeat or we can talk ourselves into victory - we are creatures of our thinking.
3/31/07 - Hit with a brick, leaving the dent there...
