A tiny ray of light

[JR2007]

Finally! Someone in a similar situation to mine (though you get to see your wife, so that might be better (or worse according to some )

Is your wife doing anything about the D? I don't know what mine is waiting for. I hope she's waiting for me, that's my PMA about it. We saw each other last Thurs and you could just feel the connection again! I know she did but she's totally scared she'd be getting back into the same old M.

We have to show them, it's NOT the same old M but a new one based on the hopes, dreams, and ACTIONS we planned on when we got married. We also have to PROVE it's not a short-term song and dance. I KNOW that's why my situation hasn't progressed much, I'm not ready (and neither is my W I'm sure). That's where the patience comes in. My DB coach, Jodi, even said it's probably a good thing that we can't talk to each other. It forces us to stand on our own, work on ourselves, and realize we can NOT control anything but ourselves. And even then we rely heavily on a higher power. That is the key to this.

I just continue to pray that she'll come talk to me about something other than splitting up property or CS or parenting time. But even that is better than the alternative (which is NOTHING).

Why are your lawyers gobbling up money, are you actually meeting with them regularly to discuss the D? Ask your wife to go to mediation so you can save some money. Mediators may also help move things back into the reconciliation arena. They see so many people that shouldnt really be getting divorced, they may be able to help without being overt about it. Think about it.

We paid our lawyers a retainer (still very expensive, I would have rather gone on a 2-week Hawaiian cruise with that money) but we haven't done squat with them in a month. Go figure.

I'm still waiting for the bomb letter in the mail, I don't like leaving the office because I know I'll have to look in the mail at home