Thanks OT - that’s actually along the lines of what I was thinking. I just don’t know how to go about it. That would mean I would probably have to bring the subject up - and I’m a notorious NON-talker. L Part of the problem throughout our entire relationship. I’m also concerned that because I am such a bad talker about these kinds of things - I don’t want it to come out like an ultimatum. Or is that what it is? And is it time for that, an ultimatum of sorts?
The thing is, if we were to enter into another committed R, not that I can predict the future or anything, but I wouldn’t want this to happen again. Meaning, a couple of months on down the road have him change his mind again. I KNOW - NO PREDICTING THE FUTURE. So that’s a stupid statement to make on my part. Or maybe what I’m trying to say is I prefer him to make the decision himself, as opposed to being forced into a decision. I mean, that email he sent me a few weeks back really does show the confusion he’s dealing with. I think it was good step on his part to acknowledge it and admit it to me - something he’s never really done before. And of course, OW doesn’t know about this. Not to the best of my knowledge anyway. He has always kept “me” and our involvement secret from her. I only mention it because I don’t know how it factors in.
I’ve done my best to try and understand his confusion. Trying to give him the space he’s seems to want, without trying to push for anything. Trying to respect his need to work this out on his own. Is me pushing for something in direct opposition to trying to give him space & time to work things out on his own?
