Just yesterday my mother said "I hope H is miserable with that woman after what he has done to you." I said "No, I want him to be happy with her because he is my children's father and then they will be happier." I really meant it at that time and want to continue to feel that way. I am angry right now with what he has done but I want us both to be happy in our lives.
halfmissing, I am glad that I was able to give you hope. That's why I posted.
You have a great attitude that will go a long way in healing your pain and bode well in the future for your family. Of course you are angry, you have every right to be. Once the anger served its purpose, its best to let it go, because in the end it will hurt us and the ones we love more. It is important that our anger not cloud our better judgement. It is something you let go for yourself and your kids. It just takes up too much energy that could be more productive elsewhere. In the end, our children are the innocent victims, who love both parents. We need to avoid putting them in the middle. Avoiding being negative in front of them about her and him is for the kids sake. It's very hard to accept the ow as part of their lives, it is something that is thrust upon us that we never wanted. I do it because I love my kids more than holding on to the past.
My best wishes and prayers are with you as you continue on your journey.
