Well, it does prove the point that women can be very competitive with each other and when they want something, they go after it. That is both good and bad of course. No wonder women tend to not trust each other. Law of the jungle again. LFL
Would you say that it's only sexually assertive women that were attracted to him, or would you say he's only attracted to sexually assertive women?
I'd say that most women could potentially be attracted to him but it's only the assertive one's that can get his attention. Being coy with my H would never work. It would probably go right over his head. Good thing we're Yankees and he doesn't have to deal with those Southern Belles. No offense SouthernGirl.
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Since he never tried to be the aggressor, I suppose he'd naturally never become sexual with a sexually nonassertive person.
Probably not. My guess is that type of R/M for him would go down to some horrid baseline sexuality of maybe once or twice a year. I think he likes that I am more sexually assertive because it forces him to stop slacking off if that makes sense. He has said as much. He probably wouldn't put in the effort I have. LFL
I'd say that most women could potentially be attracted to him but it's only the assertive one's that can get his attention. Being coy with my H would never work. It would probably go right over his head. Good thing we're Yankees and he doesn't have to deal with those Southern Belles. No offense SouthernGirl.
Having been born and raised in the late, unlamented Confederacy, I still don't respond well to "coy". I don't think "coy" is quite where you're trying to go here.
I think where you're trying to go is what I described here. Get close to him, touch him, and then go into a mood of "relaxed eagerness" rather than "assertive eagerness" or "demanding eagerness" or "supplicating eagerness". Eagerly let him have his way with you, savor the anticipation of it, and see if he picks up on that. Again, it helps if you're actually touching each other at the time, so he can't help but feel the vibe you're putting out.
I think you've been there before, the times that you had your really good encounters.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
LFL It sounds like most men are NOT going to let go of that fear. I lost the anxiety for many years. It is back because of circumstances and things I have heard and experienced.
And to top it all off, the HDW are looked at as "freaks Some freak is good! Come on LFL, I don't consider you a freak.
No LFL, HDW's are not freaks. They are different for some guys. The guy in this case might not know or understand which ice cream flavor is your favorite because he likes something else. Maybe he is a tapioca guy and doesn’t see what all the fuss is about when people talk about Häagen-Dazs.
I think Mojo has it right GGG (good, game and giving) is lacking in some men that are in a R with a higher drive woman. This goes for women as well.
fact remains, HDW are NOT accepted in society ...... That is because LDW gets too much press. If you are HD, can you talk about it as easily as some LD women among other women? I don’t get invited to too many of these parties, except here on the SSM forum.
I think even the Alpha males are not going to fully appreciate the HDW because she is somewhat of a threat to his masculinity. Again, too much press saying something similar to, the man usually doesn’t marry up. He has to be better than the woman. It is perfectly OK for a woman to marry up.
It can be tough on some guys, supposedly having to be better, more knowledgeable than the woman, to be her hero.
Maybe that is one reason there is a M/W problem.
A guy can be with a hooker/OW who he has little fear of ridicule, abandonment, complaints or embarrassment because he isn't better, more skilled, or more aggressive than her. If the R doesn't work, no big deal sometimes. He doesn't have to always be better. More skilled, concerned he does it B style when she wants it C style.
It sounds like most men are NOT going to let go of that fear. I'm sure many of the men on this board, if not most, believe everything cac and others have written. I'm positive Lou does. He said as much. Let me take back the jail stuff. I did see it happen, but feel that case was not the norm I would expect.
I will stick with some/too many cases where Aggressive" is bad.
I saw a minor version of this the entire Duke U. lacrosse team. All a young lady has to do is wake up and find herself unhappy with her behavior the night before, and decide she wants to re-write history, and your life is ruined.
I know two men that quit jobs because they were accused of something. Automatically the woman’s position was upheld and in effect, the guys had to prove their innocence.
I was, accused of being aggressive. It happened to me working with the boys in the group home. I was sent a letter saying I might serve time in jail. No one asked me what happened. No one wanted my version until the state sent an investigator from the State Department of Corrections, Internal Affairs Department, a week later.
I hate to think what I would have had to go through if the group home had girls as residents.
Two guys I met a few times quit jobs that involved females. The downside risks were too great for them, especially when the job in general was so difficult.
It’s sad one has to think about what could go wrong and miss out on how much fun can be had.
With a willing partner, I could lose the fears that have built up, so I don’t think a few bad experiences totally influences a person’s future.
Would I ever go for rimming? Most likely, like 99.9%, no. Could I learn to like to pull BB’s hair if she liked it, yes.
Would I ever go for rimming? Most likely, like 99.9%, no. Could I learn to like to pull BB’s hair if she liked it, yes.
Lou, your statistics are way off. I personally know at least 10 people who have engaged in "rimming", loosely defined, one way or another. I would bet you even money that at least 4 members of this BB have done it too.
It's not that big of a deal. "Rimming" is to "anal sex" as "oral sex" is to "vaginal sex". Here's a scenario that shows how you could learn to like it.
Imagine you are anticipating having anal sex with somebody you consider really hot. She is in the most appropriate position and you are in the process of warming her up for the act. Let's say you're simultaneously rubbing her clit and kissing the small of her back (see how close you are already). Or maybe you're applying lube and sort of kneading her *ss at the same time and getting a strong visual. Or maybe you're mixing a little dungeon action with your anal and licking the "pink". Whether or not it's going to happen just depends on just how monkey you are.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
Maybe its my generation but I'm with Lou - 99.9% sure I would NOT be into rimming and I could guarantee you 101% my H definitely would NOT be into it
Heywyre
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Maybe its my generation but I'm with Lou - 99.9% sure I would NOT be into rimming and I could guarantee you 101% my H definitely would NOT be into it
That's cool. You know me. I just like to provocatively push the envelope. There's lots of stuff I think that I would never do. For instance, I don't like the idea of anything involving big toes, adult diapers or anything around my neck.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
That's cool. You know me. I just like to provocatively push the envelope. There's lots of stuff I think that I would never do. For instance, I don't like the idea of anything involving big toes, adult diapers or anything around my neck.
No offense SouthernGirl. 