LFL - I know what you mean about having a H that doesn't like confrontation. My H is like that too, and on top of that has this thing about "not wanting to hurt anyone's feelings"
Your post reminded me of a sitch just after H and I got together. We were also engaged to be married and he mentioned something about an X *gf* owing him some money. I asked what it was about and he said he had lent her his credit card to buy a washer and dryer after they split up - no biggee. But here we were 2-3 years later and it still wasn't paid off. But he said she was "good for it" and wasn't concerned it would be paid off. I never took it any further until that Christmas when his youngest daughter came to stay for a few days. She went to visit the old gf and stayed overnight at her place. When she came home she told us that all *gf* did was talk about my H and she even sent him a present. Ok, that was it. I told him something had to be done. She was obviously avoiding paying off the credit in an attempt to keep connected to H (probably in the hopes he would call). He said he didn't want to hurt her feelings and I said it had nothing to do with "feelings" it had to do with what was right. He called her and they chatted for a few minutes, very superficial stuff and then I could tell he was uncomfortable but he asked about the visa bill, next thing I knew he was talking about us and how happy he was and that he was engaged (so obviously I was right about the connection between her and the unpaid visa bill). The conversation ended shortly thereafter and within a couple of days the visa bill was paid off. Amazing isn't it?
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
