Hard sleepless night... but I got some good advice from a co-worker today:
"You had no malicious intent... You can't always be perfect or do the right thing... at least your trying and wanting to help rebuild things with your Ex and your Daughter and that is a very good thing"
Quick phone call from my Ex this morning, daughter had to pick up some homework from my house.
I asked for a brief chat about things she said ok and listened:
I spoke strongly and confidently (a suggestion from my Friend)
"I asked daughter about going to the counselor with you or me with the EMPHASIS on it being a good thing to go with you."
"I did not think I was giving daughter "power" it was an atempt to increase her comfort level so she could really talk with you and get this worked through."
"I encouraged you to book an appointment so you could talk with the counselor and possibly Dara"
"I had no idea none ZERO that it was supposed to be your turn next If I had know that I would have NEVER even considered it to be an option."
She said a couple times it was ok...
I said ok, I will see you tommorrow, have a good night.
She replied you to.
Well I feel relieved becasue I don't need that kind of stress and conflict.
I don't excuse at all her being so irrationally angry but I can understand that she feels VERY frustrated.
Our daughter has been hiding her feelings from her mom for almost a year it's going to take a while for her to get her comfortable to talk about them.
