I was thinking some more about my H's sexual history. Now that I think about it in this context, he has always been with girls/women who were very sexually assertive. He lost his virginity at 16 to a girl on a high school camping trip. He must have done something right, lol, because I remember this girl Still calling our apartment YEARS later. We were living together and maybe even engaged at that point (young 20's) and she would call right up and say "Can I speak to ___?" and like a goofball I'd pass to phone over to him. We had it out good after one incident and the next time she called he was very very direct and said "Stop calling me. We have nothing to talk about. I'm engaged" and that was that. I was quite proud of him at that time. Felt good that he was going to take a stand. He is quite capable of doing this but he HATES confrontation, so avoids. But when it comes down to it, he gets his act together. So anyways, just sharing. His Need I guess to be the aggressor has never been tested. Women are attracted to him (obviously) so maybe he doesn't have to work so hard for it? I don't know. It would have been interesting to see what happened if we stayed S. But not so interesting I want to test that out. LFL
